QUESTION 1: CONFESSING




Hi guys! I hope you're all doing well. I would just like to let you know that of course, I will be discussing and advising you on various weekly topics, but I have also decided to roll with answering questions you guys have submitted and asked me to give solutions or answers to. So, without further ado, this week's question is:


"How can I confess to my crush? We always talk and I have a feeling he likes me because he's dropped so many hints but he hasn't said anything for sure. I've liked him for so long and it's not easy for me to let him know because I'm kind of an introvert and a generally shy person."


This is something we all struggle with and we all know how frustrating it truly is. First of all, as a shy person myself, it's already great that you're talking to him. It's important to get to know him more and better before anything serious happens. If he's dropping a lot of hints then clearly something's going on and maybe you're just the one who doesn't know what's happening. Another thing to take note of is that if his friends act weird around you when you and him are around, then that's another hint that you might not know something they know, since it's his mates whom he might tell most of his secrets to. If he is dropping hints in a way that he's treating you differently than other girls, then something's up too because you might be seen as someone more special out of everyone.


If it's not easy to let him know that you like him, just drop hints in return. But of course, there's also the option of straight up telling him yourself that you like him, but I'm guessing it might not be your cup of tea. But at the same time, if you confess first, he might come around too. Who knows? Confessing might be something fun to do. You never know unless you try. Maybe he is just waiting for you to confess first because he might even be more shy than you. He might have low self-esteem and he might lack confidence in him. If you tell him that you like him first, this could help him gain confidence in opening up to you in return. However, this mainly depends on the type of person he is.


If you are thinking of confessing to him, just tell him. It's human and it's perfectly normal to confess your feelings towards someone. It's straightforward, with no complications. I think that if it's something that you can do, go for it. Don't believe the stereotype that says "it has to be the guy who confesses, not the girl". I mean, girls can do it too. I think it's cool. If you want to switch it up a bit, then great, do it. At the same time, there's nothing to lose. If he says he doesn't like you, then okay, move on. It's not much of a big deal. At least it's now over and done with.


At the same time, try not to force anything. Don't jump into conclusions and overthink things too much. If he likes you, he'll come around. Don't rush into things because as I said, you need to get to know him better. The reason why he isn't confessing his feelings to you this soon is simply because he might want to get to know you better as well. Don't pressurise him. Maybe it's the right person at the wrong time, which is something that I believe happens a lot. Sometimes, it's the wrong person at the right time. Maybe you were meant to get together a bit later, so don't force timings that shouldn't be happening.


My advice for you is to let things flow. The more you force things, the more things won't go your way. If he confesses, do it too. If you confess, "hope for the best but expect for the worst", as a friend of mine once said. Embrace the moment ;)


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See you soon,


Sam x